Coaching has certainly become big in recent years. There are coaches to help sort out your life, your career, your finances and now there are coaches to sort out your relationships. Is relationship coaching just a gimmick or can it really help you?
Relationship coaching is really a form of life coaching that focuses upon your relationship. Unlike traditional life coaching, relationship coaching can be done as a couple rather than just as an individual
In a relationship, two people have come together to share life and experiences. Each of you, however, will have a past, a history, a wealth of experiences. Each will each also have your own personal core values, your own beliefs, your own aims and expectations. While each person’s past and experiences may be easy to identify, it is often the effects these have had upon the person that are most important. Sometimes these effects can be hidden and may then cause issues in a relationship. Bringing these effects to light and helping people deal with them, is often central to relationship coaching.
In addition, you and your partner are also bringing your own values, beliefs, aims and expectations into a relationship. Often people are not fully aware of their own core values and beliefs, sometimes you may find it difficult to express your aims and expectations. All of this can cause problems in a relationship and it is part of the role of the relationship coach to help each of you identify your values and beliefs and also to clarify your aims.
In a relationship, of course, your partner too has their own values, beliefs and aims. These may often be unknown to you and could cause friction. Bringing each partner’s inner values and beliefs into the open is part of relationship coaching. The coach will help you and your partner recognise each other’s values, beliefs and express your aims. You can then start to find ways in which you can support and nurture each other to support and develop those values and aims.
A relationship, though, is not just about two people. It often involves children, who may grow and develop their own values and ambitions. Issues surrounding the upbringing and the relationship between parents and children are often what persuades couples to come to a relationship coach.
One key difference between relationship coaching and, say, marriage guidance is that there does not need to be anything wrong in a relationship for a couple to benefit from relationship coaching. Even a ‘perfect’ relationship can benefit from coaching to help keep it that way or even improve it further.
The only key to benefiting from relationship coaching, is a desire to improve your relationship. So if you have that desire then please contact a relationship coach and see how they can help you.
By Douglas Woods,
find out more about his work on his website at http://www.dougwoods.com
